Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

This is called the Golden Rule and those who practice this in every part of their life are worth their weight in Gold!  Let’s go one step farther; do unto others as you would like others to do unto your mother, daughter, or other loved one.  When we treat others as we would like to be treated not only do they love it, but there is an inner affirmation that we’ve done the right thing.  Check out the short video below:

 

Don’t react defensively . . .

Eventually, someone will confront you about some action you’ve taken or something you’ve said.  In your mind this may or may not seem be to fair.  Let me clairify something: your perception at this point is meaningless. Until you understand the perspective of the one confronting you, it will be impossible to move to a resolution.  Check out the short video below:

 

The Sweetest Sound

Dale Carnegie said that the sweetest sound to a person is the sound of their own name. One thing is sure: people who discipline themselves to learn and use the names of others in conversation give themselves an edge in dealing with people.  The ability to remember names is often discounted but it is probably one of the most important skills a leader can develop, particularly for those who understand the importance of relationships.  Check out the short video below:

 

Student Handbook Updates

The Student Handbook for Belhaven University Adult Studies has been updated. The most recent version can be found on Blazenet at this LINK

I wanted to draw your attention specifically to two additions to the handbook:

First: A statement has been added which affects those who would sell or contribute content specific information to websites for student’s to use in plagiarizing, or taking an unfair advantage, e.g. papers and/or quiz or test questions.  I know we are all attempting to be people of integrity, but we have found Belhaven material on some of these sites.  While this might be portrayed as “helping” other students, the bottom line is that it is academic cheating.  Here is the addition to the Student Handbook:

“Enabling academic dishonesty (contract cheating), i.e. helping another student violate the standards on Academic Integrity, is unacceptable and could result in censure or dis-enrollment. Examples include: allowing one’s work to be copied, working together on an assignment where collaboration is not allowed (such as a quiz or exam, etc.), doing work for another student, or submitting work for a course to an internet site which other students can use to violate these standards.”

Second: While it seems rational to assume that we would all work with, and treat each other with respect, lately there have been some instances where that has not been the case. Since this trend seems to be expanding across our society it was felt that a statement should be included in the Student Handbook which reinforces appropriate behavior and speech when dealing with other students and with faculty:

“All communication between students and other students, or between students and faculty, must be conducted in a manner that is respectful, using language that is professional.”

Please let me or one of your Student Services personnel know if you have any questions.

Blessings,

Dr. Upchurch,
AVP Regional Campuses

 

How to Increase Your Influence Using 5 Simple Words

This post comes from an article by Lolly Daskal by the same title:

Words have the power to build people up, hold people back, and break people down. The words you speak as a leader are especially influential, with the ability to empower or disempower others.

Of all the words you can say, five are especially meaningful in terms of influence:

How can I help you?

With those five words you communicate some important principles. Offering to help positions you as a servant leader, and asking how you can help shows respect and gives the other person ownership of their own future. The simple question “How can I help?” is at the core of the most influential things leaders do:  READ MORE

How to get along with negative people

This post comes from an article by Lolly Daskal by the same title.

Negative people show up in our professional and personal lives on a regular basis. There never seems to be a shortage of negativity.

We all know people who are hard to deal with because of their negativity. Some are too demanding or abrasive. Others may be arrogant or emotionally abusive.

Whatever form their negativity takes, it makes communication stressful, and a wrong approach can make matters even worse.

Most of the time, we can’t choose whom we do business with. But we can choose how to interact with them. Over my three decades of experience as an executive leadership coach, I have been helping my clients learn how to get along with everyone they encounter, even those who are so negative they’re downright toxic.

READ her 8 points on specific ways to deal with negative people.

Stress will ALWAYS find a way

Stress might show up in weight gain, weight loss, nail biting, teeth grinding, illness, headache, grouchy attitude, etc.  This is true no matter the type of stress (good or bad, short-term or long-term) or the source of stress (work, kids, money, spouse, parents, car, etc.).  It will usually evidence itself the same way in your life.

Check out the short video below: