About Rick Upchurch

Married in 1976, with three grown children. Have served as Pastor in the Church of the Nazarene for 18 years and still hold ordination credentials in the Church of the Nazarene. Led and taught in Adult Degree Completion programs in Christian Higher Education since 1998. Published four books available on Amazon: Discipleship with James, Guidebook for Curriculum Development and Assessment, Spiritual Warfare, and The Principles of Life.

Triangles

Triangles, in terms of relationships, has to do with the distribution of power and manipulation. If you are in conflict with someone, the best resolution comes when you deal with that person, and work out the problem directly. A triangle happens when you go to someone else within the same network and present your case in order to get them on your side and get their help in influencing a decision in your favor.

For more on this check out the short video below:

 

Wisdom

In the Bible book of Proverbs, Solomon writes “Blessed is the man who finds wisdom, the man who gains understanding.” (3:13) The book of Proverbs is Solomon’s manual on wisdom. According to Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived, the foundation of wisdom is clearly identified: “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge” (1:7a). For “fear” in this context read “awe.” Until we realize how awesome God is, and who we are in comparison true wisdom will be an illusion.

For more on this check out the short video below:

 

Complacency

Complacency is not the same thing as trust or faith; don’t get confused at this point. Trust is an active emotion which builds upon past performance and projects future behavior. Similarly, faith hinges upon belief in people or information that is often unsupported. Both are dynamic and provide foundations for change. Complacency, however, is the acceptance of the status quo at a level which relinquishes any personal options for change;

For more on this check out the short video below:

 

Adversity

Adversity always seems to come at an unexpected time, from an unexpected source, or both. Even when you know its coming, it can throw you off. However, you can prepare yourself, to some degree ahead of time. Here is how: cast yourself fully upon Jesus. A.W. Tozer stated: When I understand that everything happening to me is to make me more Christlike, it resolves a great deal of anxiety.”

For more on this check out the short video below:

 

Urgency

What a great word… and what an overlooked emotion and tool. Rather, I should say an emotion/tool often misapplied in our lives, which creates stress but accomplishes little. We are busy, very busy, without an understanding of what urgency is really about. Urgency is all about achieving success, no matter the area of life.

For more on this check out the short video below:

 

Eye Contact

The act of looking someone in the eye and holding that look, while sharing from the heart, can be a powerful and persuasive force. Those who are master communicators understand and practice this tactic whenever they are intent on influencing you to their point of view. This can be done in a public speaking format, targeting a few people scattered in the audience, or it can be in a one-on-one conversation. It is in the one-on-one conversation where the real force of this tactic becomes evident, where the true power of can be felt.

For more on this check out the short video below:

Confronting the Brutal Truth

Almost no one wants to confront the brutal truth about lack of progress and/or roadblocks in achieving a goal, which is why mediocrity is the norm. Because of this, problems are almost never addressed unless they become impossible to ignore. The more you know about what is really happening, the better you will be in a position to adapt and flow with the changes necessary to succeed.

For more on this check out the short video below:

 

Default Mode

By Default Mode, I mean how you are basically programmed to react or behave. Personality is part of this but, this programming also is affected by a combination of your DNA and how you were raised, including the influences upon you as you were growing up. The BIG question is: “Do you know your Default Mode of response?” and “Are you satisfied with it?” Most people never give any thought to this and are trapped by their programing in self-defeating patterns of behavior.

For more on this check out the short video below:

 

Self-Pity

Self-pity is a normal emotional response whenever you feel like you are a victim. That can happen for any number of reasons, many, if not most, of them, seem justified. This is important: Self Pity has the effect of lowering your defenses to temptation, making it easier for you to rationalize behavior that you would normally avoid. You will always be faced with temptation, but under normal circumstances, you are probably able to resist. However . . .

For more on this check out the short video below:

 

Take Care of Business

A lot of people imagine the leader in business as the one giving orders, but not seeming to do any of the hard work themselves. Wrong! Real leaders are hard workers who take of business. If something needs doing, they make sure it gets done, even if they have to do it themselves. If a job needs an extra pair of hands, they jump in with a willing, positive attitude. Leaders aren’t afraid of hard work, and actually, embrace the reality that great things only come about through hard work.

For more on this, check out the short video below: