Almost no one wants to confront the brutal truth about lack of progress and/or roadblocks in achieving a goal, which is why mediocrity is the norm. Because of this, problems are almost never addressed unless they become impossible to ignore. The more you know about what is really happening, the better you will be in a position to adapt and flow with the changes necessary to succeed.
By Default Mode, I mean how you are basically programmed to react or behave. Personality is part of this but, this programming also is affected by a combination of your DNA and how you were raised, including the influences upon you as you were growing up. The BIG question is: “Do you know your Default Mode of response?” and “Are you satisfied with it?” Most people never give any thought to this and are trapped by their programing in self-defeating patterns of behavior.
Self-pity is a normal emotional response whenever you feel like you are a victim. That can happen for any number of reasons, many, if not most, of them, seem justified. This is important: Self Pity has the effect of lowering your defenses to temptation, making it easier for you to rationalize behavior that you would normally avoid. You will always be faced with temptation, but under normal circumstances, you are probably able to resist. However . . .
At the end of 1 Corinthians 13, Paul identifies 3 things which should be a part of our lives: faith, hope, and love. These attitudes/actions/characteristics form the core of a fulfilled life, and even more importantly, a life that is pleasing to God. Paul concludes the chapter by saying, “but the greatest of these is love.” In context it is easy to understand that what he means, is that we should show love in all our interactions, not just toward the people we like or the ones we know. EVERYBODY!
There is a place for shouting and raised voices, for instance, Boot Camp, or perhaps the athletic training field. One place where shouting isn’t acceptable is the office. If you, as the leader, are shouting at your people, then it probably isn’t the employee that has the problem– it’s you. You need to get control of your emotions and demonstrate some discipline. “But,” you say, “I’m just passionate or that’s just the way I am, and everybody knows it.”
Grace is unmerited favor or kindness, for instance, when you do something nice for someone for no reason at all you are being gracious. Mercy is unwarranted forgiveness, or at the very least, unwarranted forbearance. Accountability is the process whereby an individual is held responsible, to an expectation. Let’s face it, finding the right balance in showing grace and mercy, while holding people accountable can be challenging.
This, like so much else, requires balance. I saw a commercial on television where a new driver had
a flat tire. He called his father who was instructing him on how to change the tire. His father asked if he knew what a tire iron was. The young man answered yes in an uncertain voice, while holding up a different tool. It was easy to see he was clueless. Here is where the balance comes in, you may not choose to change the tire yourself, but you should know the tools in case you have to.
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To compartmentalize means to be able to take all the mental baggage of an issue, put it into a room or compartment in your mind, and then close the door so that you can focus upon another issue. This is similar to juggling, but it differs in that usually the issues which need to be compartmentalized have the potential of completely de-railing your entire focus, and negatively affecting your life.
Bob Dylan, a singer and musician, in one of his songs says” you’re gonna serve somebody, it maybe the Lord, it maybe the Devil, but you’re gonna serve somebody”. He is right on target: you are serving somebody whether you know it or not. This is an unavoidable fact of life. Joshua from the Old Testament said to the nation of Israel after they entered the promised land:
Precedent is the small vine growing through the seam of concrete that eventually breaks the slab. Precedent is the small root that eventually grows to fill and close off the drain pipe, causing problems and damage. Precedent is ANY decision you make that runs contrary to policy. dent will open the door for that decision to happen again, and again.