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Wrapping Up!

It’s hard to believe, but we are very close to the end of the Fall 2014 semester! For many students this is a time to celebrate, but for others it can be a time to panic.  Missing work, last minute projects, papers or presentations often bring anxiety.  If you sense anxiety or frustration when talking to your student, take this opportunity to ask some questions.

While many parents think their student might get irritated or think they are interfering, most students find some relief in being able to talk about their concerns. Even if you haven’t experienced college personally, most people have experienced the pressures of some type of deadline.  Sharing your feelings during that experience might be just what your student needs to overcome his or her own struggle.  Don’t underestimate the power of your past experience and small words of encouragement!  If your student feels frustrated or overwhelmed, ask questions that that will help him or her think through choices; time, study, social, rest, exercise and food.  If they need to seek out assistance with their academic struggles, encourage them to come see us in the Think Center…we’re here to help!

Registration

Has your student registered for the Spring semester?  Although Registration Week has passed (Oct. 27 – 31) there’s still time!  It’s important for students to register now so they are able to hold their place in a class they might need for their degree.  If they haven’t taken advantage of registration they can still set their Spring schedule by contacting their advisor and scheduling a time to meet.  If your student doesn’t know who his or her advisor is the Think Center and can assist with that information.

Important Dates!

Thanksgiving Holiday – November 26 – 28

Final Exams begin at 6:00 pm on December 3rd and end on December 9th.  If you would like to know the exam schedule, click here!

Residence Halls close at 5:00 pm on December 11, so make sure your student has their travel plans in place!

Spring classes begin on January 14th, 2015.

Upcoming Events

November 20 & 21, 2014
8th Annual Evening Of One-Acts

A Project Of The Production Supervision and Directing Classes.
Blackbox Theatre – Admission is free, no reserved seating. Doors open at 7 pm.

November 20 & 21, 2014
DOXA Dance Concert

Bitsy Irby Visual Arts and Dance Center Studio Theatre – General Admission $2, Complimentary admission for Belhaven Faculty/Staff/Students and immediate families. Doors open at 7 pm.

November 22, 2014
Choral/Vocal Arts Concert: Gloria in Excelsis! A Christmas Celebration

Saturday, 7:30 pm, Concert Hall – Complimentary admission. Doors open at 7:00 pm.

November 24, 2014
Best of Belhaven I

Monday, 7:30 pm, Concert Hall – Complimentary admission. Doors open at 7 pm.

December 1, 2014
Improv Jam

Monday, 7:00 pm, Bitsy Irby Visual Arts and Dance Center Studio Theatre

December 5 & 6, 2014
Hubert_Worley The 82nd Annual Singing Christmas Tree
Belhaven Bowl
The Belhaven University Singing Christmas Tree is the oldest outdoor singing Christmas tree tradition in America.  Dr. Christopher Shelt conducts the singing forces made up of the 70 Belhaven Choral Arts singers along with 60 additional students, faculty, and staff.  That is 130 voices joining forces to wish you and your family a Merry Christmas! Complimentary admission.

 

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Athletics

11/25/2014 Men’s Basketball vs Mississippi College Jackson, Miss. 7:00 PM
11/28/2014 Women’s Basketball vs Brewton-Parker College Jackson, Miss. 5:30 PM
11/28/2014 Men’s Basketball vs Brewton-Parker College Jackson, Miss. 7:30 PM
11/29/2014 Women’s Basketball vs Middle Georgia College Jackson, Miss. 3:00 PM
11/29/2014 Men’s Basketball vs Middle Georgia College Jackson, Miss. 5:00 PM
12/6/2014 Women’s Basketball vs Concordia College Jackson, Miss. 2:00 PM

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Questions Jesus Asked:  “If you love only those who love you what credit is that to you?  Luke 6:32
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Fall belhaven

Fall Break is just around the corner!  It’s always good when students can take a couple of days and decompress from the daily grind of classes, which is why Belhaven offers a Fall Break for our students.  The dates for Fall Break this year is next Monday and Tuesday, October 13 and 14th and classes will start back up at 8 am on Wednesday, October 15.  It’s important for students to take that time and visit with family or friends or just to get away from campus so they can experience a refreshment and revitalization of both mind and spirit.  Of course, it’s always a good thing to take a break after working hard to do well on their midterm exams!

If you are interested in knowing what your student’s midterm grades are,  plan on talking with them after October 16th.  Midterm grades will be posted by October 16th and students will have access to those grades on Blazenet under their grade report.  Midterm grades are oftentimes a good indication of how students will finish the semester so if your student is doing well, they should finish strong.  Of course the opposite can be true as well; if they aren’t doing well at midterms, then they might not finish as strong as they hoped.  The good news is that midterms can serve as a “wake-up” moment for students and they CAN change the outcome.  It might be a challenge, but it’s a challenge they can overcome with commitment, dedication, and a lot of focus and hard work.  If your student isn’t doing as well at midterms, encourage them to think through their choices, their study habits and their responsibilities to extra-curricular activities.  Hopefully you can help them determine what steps to take to finish strong!  They can also come see one of us in the Think Center and we’ll be happy to help them think things through and come up with a good plan.

If you would like more information or have any questions, feel free to contact one of us in the Think Center at 601-968-8865 or at stsuccess@belhaven.edu or you can contact me directly at rpirtle@belhaven.edu.  We’re here to help!

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It’s almost October and with this month comes a change in seasons, cooler weather, falling leaves, and if you’re a college student, midterms.  At Belhaven, instructors post mid-term grades by October 16th.  What does this mean for your student?  Most likely, he or she has papers and exams due in almost every class.  For some students, midterm means the first real academic pressures of the semester.  Midterm is often a wake-up call for many students as they begin to realize how much work is left to do before semester’s end.

How can parents help?  LEARN…Listen, Encourage, Ask, Remind, and Notice.

Listen. Try to refrain from “fixing” their stress. Give them a chance to vent.

Encourage. Assure them that they can do well and persist.

Ask. What are they doing to get help?  Are they using campus resources?  Have they talked one on one with their instructors? Have they kept up in classes?

Remind. Talk about a time in the past when they persisted through a difficult time.

Notice. You know your student best. If he or she seems unusually stressed or distant, trust your instincts and investigate.

Still not sure how to follow up on your student’s academic progress?  Each class instructor hands out a syllabus at the beginning of the semester.  The syllabus is a guide for students that outlines class expectations, major assignments, deadlines, and other important information specific to that particular course.  A very simple way of finding out more about your student’s classes is to ask for a copy of the syllabus and discuss specific projects and exams.

If you have additional questions or need more information, please contact Ron Pirtle, Dean of Student Development, at rpirtle@belhaven.edu. If your student needs campus academic resources information, direct him or her to the Think Center in Hood Library.

Family Weekend!

If you weren’t able to make it to our 2014 Family Weekend, we missed you!  We had a great turnout and were excited to see families connect after being apart; it’s amazing to watch our students light up at seeing their family again!  All families members had something to do, from “Rec the Night” to the President’s Brunch and the Family Tailgate…it was a great time to reconnect!  If you missed this year’s family weekend, start thinking now about joining us next year!

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Helping your student through homesickness

By Lucy Ewing

Colleges have programs in place to welcome new students, but many first years will still experience homesickness. There are times of the day and family traditions that tug at a freshman’s heart. And there is the effort of making new friends, perhaps the biggest challenge of all.

Students I spoke with recalled missing the smell of waffles, eggs and bacon every morning, or the big Sunday dinner. They missed the comfort of home: “Beds, chairs, and really all furniture at college are pretty uncomfortable!” one student said. (Bargain bungee chairs are not the same as the family sofa.) They missed family and friends and pets, especially at night. That’s when you may get those wistful phone calls.

Just hearing a parent or sibling’s voice can improve a student’s mood and mindset. However, some upperclassmen caution that parents and freshmen calling each other too often can slow the acclimation to campus.

So, too, if campus is close to home, parents might be tempted to offer refuge. This is the time when you remember that your role is changing. The parent in you wants to jump in the car and rush to make things better; instead, think about how you can serve as a coach and advisor to help your student beat the homesickness blues.

Remembers one grad: “My mom and I are really close, and in the beginning I really wanted to go home over the weekends. My mom gently suggested that it would be better in the long run if I stuck it out at school.”

Social engagement is key to your student gaining confidence and a sense of belonging. These suggestions were offered by students who have been there and made it through — share them with your freshman.

  • Go to the activity fair or tables set up around campus and join one or two groups.
  • Attend the residence hall movie nights and outdoor hikes planned by your Resident Advisors. “Surround yourself with positive people and energy.”
  • Head to the gym or the dance studio to stretch and work out. “This is very therapeutic.”
  • Attend a church service on campus. Join a choir and sing!
  • Take a shopping trip to the mall with some friends. “We became friends with the clerks at the best yogurt shop in town!”
  • Share care packages from home with everybody. “It usually benefits everyone!”
  • Find a group of people that remind you of your home friends. “If you trust your friends and know they genuinely have your best interest at heart, you will feel comfortable on campus.”
  • Say yes to most invitations in the beginning. “There were many times when I would have rather said ‘no thanks’ to walking to class or getting a meal with new classmates, but if I had I would have missed out on meeting some of my dearest friends.”

The experience of confronting homesickness while settling in at college teaches your student how to negotiate all kinds of new territory.

How do you know when your student has settled in? When the next call you receive sets you at ease — a good sign that your student is working things out for herself. How does your student know the homesickness hump has been hurdled? “I knew I was over my homesickness,” one upperclassman said, “when going back to campus meant going home.”

Lucy Ewing is in her 17th year as a national board certified teacher with the Boulder Valley School District and has been recognized by the Impact on Education Foundation and Jared Polis Foundation. She mentors with the Friends School as well as the University of Colorado CUTeach program for students in science and engineering. Writing is a passion for Lucy. In addition to articles for UniversityParent, she is a Denver Post “Colorado Voices” columnist and a college essay tutor. Lucy is parent to two recent college graduates, and she and her husband love nothing more than visiting them on both coasts.

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Taken from an article on www.universityparent.com

 

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family cookout

Don’t forget about Family Weekend coming up September 26 & 27, 2014!

We look forward to seeing you for Family Weekend and it’s a great time to return to Belhaven to see your student.  The weekend is full of activities OR you can just hang out and cheer for the Belhaven Blazers in our first afternoon home football game.

For more information go to Family Weekend or register online today and let us know you plan to attend!

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