My Mom Has Crossed Over Into Heaven

Mom BirthdayIn the early hours of this morning my Mom peacefully moved into heaven. With the long expectation of her passing it is a relief . . . but it isn’t . . . but it is with assurance of heaven. Although it’s been a difficult 3 ½ years for Mom since Dad died, even as she suffered from Parkinson’s, she never lost her fortitude, grace, and dignity.

The theme song of her life was the hymn she played to open the Sunday evening service every week in our church when Dad was a pastor in Portland, Oregon:

Make me a blessing, Make me a blessing

Out of my life May Jesus shine;

Make me a blessing, O Savior, I pray,

Make me a blessing to someone today.

I thank the Lord for Mom’s wonderful Godly life, just three weeks short of 88 years – 32,119 days to be exact. I’m thankful that so many of those days were invested in me and my brothers, on top of her being the author or many books, business woman, and a strong and active wife of a pastor and university president.

When she took a turn for the worse two weeks ago, I quickly adjusted my schedule to be with her in Phoenix, and I’m so thankful I made it in time. Last Tuesday night when I arrived, she was alert, and could speak a few words, and for nearly two hours she wouldn’t let go of my hand and I told her happy memories from her life. Although couldn’t speak much, her smile and the twinkle in her eye communicated a lifetime of love.

By Friday she had only brief seconds she was awake, as she had lost her ability to speak with much understanding. We held hands for hours while she drifted in and out of sleep.

It took several attempts to walk out of that room for the last time knowing I’d never see her again this side of heaven. But before I left, she looked with eyes that said come close, and when I bent down for that last time in a struggled whisper she said, “I love you” . . . and give me a kiss. And then, out of the blue in a strong voice she said, “I’m going to get better.”

This morning Mom is all better – standing strong with no walker to assist her and no shaking from Parkinson’s – eyes alert, taking in Heaven and filled with joy as she begins her eternal life with Jesus – and I hope, already playing tennis with Dad again like they loved to do when they were in college together.

When the hurts of life are too deep – when I hardly know how to pray – I pray music. These last few days I’ve been praying this song, as if I wrote every single word of it myself: Gary Chapman’s, “That’s as Good as Goodbye Gets.”

We said our last “I love you” as we held each other tight.

With years of tender feelings overflowing from our eyes.

Now here I am with memories, all alone, with no regrets.

And that’s as good as goodbye gets.

You did a lot of living as you walked these earthly miles.

It’s funny, though I’m crying,
still somehow, I have to smile.

Cause your life, your love, your laughter, touched everyone you met.

And that’s as good as goodbye gets.

There’s a deep, deep sadness that comes with letting go.

But, even though I’m grieving, there is peace; there is hope.

Says everyone who knew you, was a part of your days,

Your eyes were fixed on Jesus, now you’ll find Him face to face.

And I’ll meet you there in heaven, when my life sun sets.

And that’s as good as goodbye gets.

My time to see her off to heaven last week was about as good as goodbye gets.

Thanks for your prayers. Knowing that my friends understand Heaven is for real, encourages me that your prayers will join the great Cloud of Witnesses who are welcoming my Mom into her eternal home.

Turn your eyes upon Jesus.

Look full in his wonderful face

And the things of earth will grow strangely dim

In the light of his glory and grace.


8 thoughts on “My Mom Has Crossed Over Into Heaven

  1. So sorry for your loss but happy for what your mom has gained. Grateful for her influence so you can influence students for Christ!
    God Bless,
    Kelley Owens,
    mother to Trey, Zack and Grace

  2. Thank you for sharing about your mom’s homegoing. It was very similar to my mom who went to heaven on Oct. 10th. How thankful I am that the Lord provided a wonderful life for His children beyond the grave and that we will be reunited with our loved ones again.

  3. Dr. Parrot,
    Thank you for being so very transparent with us. I shared this with family and close friends yesterday. We are so thankful for your mother and the legacy she left. It’s an honor and blessing to read the reflections of a beloved son.
    Because of Christ and His beautiful hope,

  4. My two brothers and I lost our mom February 26th from Pancreatitis for which she eventually chose to not seek further treatment after over a month in the hospital with no improvement. We were so fortunate that her faith was fact to her and that her spiritual faith allowed her to make such a choice as to stop futile treatment. She knew exactly where she was going and was looking forward to being with my dad again.
    I am still quite grief-striken, wander around my home feeling sort of lost, have crying spells, and feel like life will never be normal again without her here. I wish there was someway to contact her in Heaven or she could contact me. My husband says I should be happy that she is where she wants to be (Heaven) and is with my dad again and feel comforted I will see her and dad again.
    Of course I know these things but I am still very depressed. Does this mean I have a lack of faith?
    Thank you for your help.
    Sincerely, Lu

    • I know how you feel. My mom passed 2 months ago and I miss her so. I am so happy that she is with the Lord
      I am sad in my heart because i iss her so. It is so hard to be left behind. God understands our hurts! Cry out to Him! He is there and He is hugging your mom! I am so sorry for your loss! God bless!

      • Thank you for contacting me Ann. I am so sorry to hear about your mom. It is a comfort to know she is with the Lord and you will see her again. Let yourself grieve and allow yourself to feel moments of joy. You will have grief bursts but those are normal. It was very difficult to allow myself to feel joy again. I felt that anything that moved my life forward was leaving my mom behind. My mom (and your mom) would want our lives to go forward, not stop with their passing. You have marvelous faith that will comfort you and yes, our moms are being hugged by the Lord and all our loved ones who are in Heaven. They are actually having the times of theirs lives up there 🙂 Thank you again for your friendly and comforting post to me. I really appreciate it. God bless you!

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